Showing posts with label Marriage & Relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage & Relationship. Show all posts

Friday, 16 November 2018


Your heart is your love. your love is your family,your family is your future , your future is your destiny ,your destiny is your ambition, your ambition is your aspiration, your aspiration is your motivation , your motivation is your belief. your belief is your peace , yours peace is your target ,your target is your friends, life is no fun without friends.  

Now, here comes a story - don’t mess with a righteous woman as written by Adexshowking Adeniji; Bimbo didn’t want me not to take up that job initially. She said something about her heart not being comfortable with it but what was a man like me to do when I have been living on my wife’s meager income for the past four months.

So I took up the job and the morning of my resumption, dressed in a crispy blue shirt and a new pair of trouser Bimbo got for me, I worked into Jabs Consult feeling like a man for the first time in a long time. I was again going to be the provider of my home. Well, wasn’t that my responsibility in the first place?

But I noticed something as the MD introduced me to the staff as the new accountant. They all stared blankly at me. I noticed the fake smiles, the forced responses of ‘welcome’ and the cold handshake. They didn’t look so happy to see me and that disturbed me greatly. My first day at work wasn’t pleasant as expected but I remained focused. I needed the job badly. What mattered was that there would be food on the table provided by me, the leader of my home.

Three months later, the Managing Director, a woman with a beautiful face in her mid fifties, called me into her office.

” You are an intelligent man and I’m always amazed at the suggestions you give at the staff general meeting. From the day you stepped into this place, I knew there was something special about you. Weldone, Mr Kayode.”

I went back to my office feeling really excited. As I entered, two ladies were already sitting down waiting for me. Kemi, the customer care rep rolled her eyes as I walked to my seat. Her low cut black top caught my attention but I quickly took my eyes away. Instead, I focused them on Gloria, a petite lady in a fitting blue gown, whose voice was so tiny, it made me laugh.

“Hello Ladies. What can I do for you?” They smiled. “Can’t we just come and greet you in your office.” the lady with the tiny voice said.

“I wonder o.” Kemi responded. “I don’t know why you like locking yourself up in the office. Socialize. Even Jesus socialised with sinners.’ ” I have a lot of work to do.”

Gloria stood up. “On behalf of the staff members, we want to say we are sorry for the way we treated you when you first arrived.”

Kemi nodded in agreement. “We are really sorry. It’s just that the person you replaced was very much loved here and we were really sad when she was told to leave.” I pulled my chair back and sat down. “What really happened? Why was she sacked?” “She was accused of stealing some money and we know she didn’t. I can bet my life on it.” “Since I started working here, more than five accountants have been sacked. Nobody knows how the money disappears.” Kemi said.

I stared at them, shocked at the news I was hearing. Then I smiled to myself. Money cannot disappear from my hands, I muttered. I do not steal neither was I careless with money. But I was wrong when two weeks later, I counted the money made from the sales for the day. 50,000 naira. Impossible! When the sales rep came with the money, right in her presence, I counted 200,000 naira. I upturned the drawers and poured out the contents while my heart pounded  in fear. But I didn’t find the 150,000 naira.

Jesus, I muttered and rushed to the Sales department.“Ranti, how much did you bring to my office?” Ranti was just about leaving the office when I approached her desk. She hesitated before responding.

“Please don’t tell me that money is missing.”  The other sales rep stood there watching. She ran out and returned with more of the staff members. “How much did you give to me?” “200, 000 naira.”

“Lord Jesus.” I clapped my hands together. “I can’t find 150,000 naira. The others gasped. Ranti fell back in her seat. “This must stop in this company! I am tired of this place. How did the money disappear? Ise yi tii su mi o.”

“Did you check your office very well?” Dayo, the verification officer asked. I showed them all that I had found in the safe box when I unlocked it.

“This is not funny at all! Something is not right in this company.” Fisayo, the receptionist shouted.

“Nobody leaves this company till we have searched every bag..” Ranti barked

“That cannot work o. Are you now suspecting us?”

“Let’s check her office again.” Dayo left with two others. Just then Kemi and Gloria entered the sales office with a look that said, ‘it has happened again?”

“Things were not like this in this office five years ago. All of a sudden, everything just changed. That same year, I got pregnant. lost the child and I have never been able to keep a child in my womb.”Ranti lamented.

“What about me? I have been writing CIPD exam for three years straight. I will read and read and yet every night before my exam, someone will hit my head with a big stick and when I wake up, I’ll not be able to understand anything again.” A lady said.

“I thought I was the only one facing problems o. Every time a man proposes to me, I see myself tied to a tree and an old woman pouring mud clay on my face and when I would say Yes to the proposal, the guy changes his mind. I’ve fasted and prayed. I don tire. After this month, I dey resign.”

How did I end up in a place like this? Dayo and the search team returned empty. For some minutes, we stood there in silence. I hadn’t expected this kind of reaction from my colleagues and the fact that they believed I didn’t steal the money surprised me. We held hands together and prayed, asking God to intervene in the situation and fish out the culprit.

“How do you want me to believe that you didn’t steal the money?” The MD shouted. “What is wrong with these accountants. You keep stealing the company’s money and denying it.”

“I didn’t steal it!”  Anger covered my face. My blood rose. No one had ever accused me of stealing any money. “So how did the money disappear? If you don’t cough out that money before next week, You’ll have to use your salary to pay for it. Get out of my office!”

That evening I lay on the bed, weak and tired. How much was my salary. 50,000 naira. So, I was going to use my three months salary to pay for this.  I had planned so much for that money and now I wouldn’t be able to even spend a dime out of it?

Despair descended on me like a thick cloud. My wife returned from the bible study to find me on my back, facing the wall. “Sweetheart, what’s wrong?” I didn’t want her to see my swollen eyes so I faced the wall while I explained all that had happened.

I expected her to be so angry like I was but instead she stayed calm and that annoyed me more. How could she just stay unruffled when someone called her husband a thief. Did she believe I stole the money?

“There is only one thing we can do now. We pray and trust the Lord to reveal whoever is behind this.” For no reason, I hissed. I wanted her out of my sight and a strong disgust filled me. So I raised my voice. “I don’t have the strength to pray!”

“That’s why I’m here dear. Let me be your strength. You should eat something. I hissed again. “Just leave me alone.”

She left the room and even though the door was closed, I could hear her voice from the other room. She started praying in the Spirit and then I began to hear her quotes scriptures that cut through my heart.

“This is your battle Lord. Open our eyes. Show us Lord what is going on. Your word says your eyes are over the righteous and your ears are opened to their prayers. Lord, you said in your word  that He who follows you will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life.

“Expose every darkness Lord. Reveal whoever is behind this in the name of Jesus!”

She switched back to tongues and back to the scriptures again. I just stayed on the bed listening, too weak to stand up.

“We wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers in high places. In the name of Jesus, every dark places be exposed. Vindicate your son oh Lord and let your name be glorified. Show us what’s going on. Strengthen my husband. May every despair be lifted this moment in the name of Jesus.

Something strong lifted from my chest. I was surprised. Suddenly, I felt light and strengthened in a way I couldn’t explain. Bimbo was praying in tongues again. I sat up. Didn’t the bible say, two shall chase a thousand? As I stood up to join her, my phone rang.

Ranti. Why would she be calling me at this time of the night.

“Hello Ranti.” No response. She was breathing hard.

“Mr Kayode, please pray for me. Something is pressing my stomach. I don’t want to lose this child. Please!” Pregnant? I hadn’t even noticed she was pregnant.

“In the name of Jesus, I command you, stop oppressing her!” I heard my wife shout from the other room. My eyes widened   I rushed out to the living room and saw my wife singing and dancing.

“Ranti, are you there? Ranti!” “I’m fine. I fell on the floor.” she was panting hard. “I feel better. Thank you.” When I ended the call, Bimbo wrapped her hand around my shoulders. “Let’s go to bed. She pulled my hand and led me back to the room. What kind of woman did I marry? In a few minutes, she was fast asleep. I lay beside her staring at her for a long time.

That night in a dream, I was in the office with my wife. She was trying to fill a form and I was helping her out when she pointed my attention to an old woman walking towards the safe box. She tapped it thrice and the box opened. Then she began to count money. “So it is you who steals the money of the company.” I stood up, angry. Bimbo grabbed my hands.

She stood straight, shocked while her weak eyes bored into mine. Her face looked familiar.  As I was wondering where I had seen the face, the winkles began to disappear and was replaced with glowing  fair skin. Right before me stood Kemi. I almost jumped at the sight, my mouth agape. The money fell from her hand.

“There is no hiding place for you. In the name of Jesus, I command you to lose your hold over every staff in the company..” She cried, and turned back into an old woman before disappearing out of sight. I woke up with a start, beads of sweat covering my face. I couldn’t sleep till the day broke.

The next day when I got to work, Ranti hurried to my side. “Thank you. My husband and I are hoping to pay you a visit soon.

I smiled. The secretary walked towards me as I spoke with some other colleagues who were waiting at the reception. They wanted to know what the M.D said about the missing money. “The M.D wants to see you.” the secretary said and hurried back to the office. As I followed her, Dayo called out to me. I turned. “We have your back. This time, we will defend you to the last. ” I smiled and continued walking to the office. When I entered, she was already seated. She leaned forward, her hands on the table.

“I’m sorry about the way I lashed out at you yesterday. So many things have been wrong with this company. I have lost deals that I would normally have won and I had to deal with my son’s mental illness.  It has been so frustrating. I work hard every day but I don’t see results. Money get missing in this company, I have called prophets and spiritualists for prayers but nothing changed and just last week, I was telling my husband that we should close the company but he insisted we gave it some more time. It was with all of that that I responded harshly to you.”

“I didn’t steal that money.” I said, when I didn’t know what else to say. The MD sighed. “Let’s forget about that incident. Just be careful next time.”

I nodded. ” I’ll call you later today. There is something I want us to look into. A follow up on the deal we had with that client I spoke to you about. Lest I forget, the deal clicked. The client called me this morning to seal the agreement. Thank God I listened to you.”

I nodded and left her office. Almost all the 20 staff members of the company were waiting to hear the outcome of the meeting. They shouted in excitement when I informed them that I had not been fired. That was the beginning of a new kind of friendship. I looked around for Kemi but she was nowhere to be found. She didn’t come the following day and the day after. Her lines were switched off and till date, I have not set my eyes on her.

It’s been five years and Jabs Consult has seen better days. I head a department and Ranti’s babies are doing fine. But this incident, I will never forget. When I look at the woman I married, these words just run through my lips: Don’t mess with a righteous woman who knows her authority in Christ. You can’t mess with her home, with her husband and with her kids. I’m learning to be that man who realises that the name of the Lord is a strong tower. The righteous runs into it and is safe.

Sunday, 21 October 2018


Call him by a pet name. Allow him exercise his authority as the head of the family. Do not challenge him when he is hurt. Be silent when he is angry. You can go back to him in his sober moment with apology and explain why you behave that way that annoyed him. Be quick to say "I'm sorry dear" when ever you offend him, insist on his forgiveness,appreciate and kiss him when he does.

Speak good of him before his Friends and siblings. Honor his mother. Insist that he buys gift for his parents and so be sure that he will do same for your parents. Surprise him with his favorite dish especially when he has no money at hand and never delay his food. Do not allow the maid to serve him food when you are at home. Because u may lose him to her. Give him a warm reception with an embrace when he returns, collect his luggage and help undress him.

Smile when you look at him and give him occasional pecks when you are out socially. Praise him before your children sometimes. Wash his back while he is in the tub or shower. Put love note in his lunch box or briefcase.  Phone and tell him that you miss him. Dial his number and on hearing "hello" just tell him I love you.

If he is a public figure or a politician, gently wake him at the early hours of the morning and romance him to the point of demand. He will not be entice by any other woman that day. Tell him how lucky you are to have him as your husband. Give him a hug for no reason. Appreciate God for the Adam of your life. Always remember to pray for him.
Pray together and also pray together before going to bed in the evening. May God bless your marriages.

Singles may you experience true love today and forever. May non-serious people that will waste your time be disconnected in your life In Jesus Name.

Saturday, 20 October 2018


Marriage is the only school that you gain admission into without graduating. Once you are married you are married for life! Marriage is like a shoe. When you wear oversize, be ready to drag it along through out life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains through out life".

One thing about marriage is that you don't drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is. That is why I thought it necessary to write you this letter.If you are single, there are many things that may attract you to a man or woman for marital relationship which have nothing to do with marriage, but you may be willfully ignorant of that. Here is the list of such things;

Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that aligns with your values and belief, the one who you meet at your life's journey. It is important to know where you're going in life before you think of getting a wife.

All sizes of shoes are not placed in the same place. There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have Children sizes, young people's sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe. Your size cannot be everywhere my brother, your type cannot be everywhere my sister. You cannot be a Christian, and be looking for a wife material at a club. Your wife or husband can't just be everywhere. Stick to your values and therein you shall find someone like you, but when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values.

When you see a brother who can play musical instrument very well or a young lady or man who has a good voice, and you feel attracted to the person for marital relationship, now what does singing or musical instrument has to do with marriage? It is called the ignorance of the singles. You may not realize this until you get into marital relationship or you get married that you will know that what attracted you to the person in the first instance has nothing to do with having a successful marriage at all. That is one of the reasons celebrities marriages do not last, those talents are not really needed in marriage, only on stage. Then you will remember James 5:13, it's when people are happily married that they appreciate their spouses singing melody to them, but if not, the voices and singing become ugly.

This is very funny, but to many singles out there, it is not funny at all, it is rather a costly ignorance. When you are attracted to a man because he knows how to dress very well, or to a lady because she has straight legs, because the person is tall, slim, light skin or glowing skin, or because the person has good set of teeth, long hair, or has a good smile, you are under the influence of common single’s ignorance, because none of these things have anything to do with having a good marriage.

If you go into marital relationship or get married wrongly to a person because of physical attraction, when the agony of bad marriage overwhelms you, you will wish to use cutlass to cut off the straight legs or whatever that lured you to the person.

In the book of Proverbs 31: 30, the Bible says, “Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.” If you are single and you are still overwhelmed with single exorbitance, this Bible verse will not make any sense to you, you will feel like, “No oh, beauty is something to me o, I want to marry a beautiful woman, that is my longtime dream.” Or “I want to marry a handsome man; in fact I can’t marry less than that.” And you even quote Bible to back it up, that God gives good things to His children. You know what? To the single, beauty is something or everything, but to have a successful marriage, beauty is nothing.

If you see a beautiful lady or a handsome young man over there, and you are attracted to the person for marital relationship, because of the beauty, you know what? You are under the influence of single ignorance which will soon clear from your eyes when you get into it.

Physical beauty has nothing to do with a good or happy marriage. If physical beauty has anything to contribute to happy marriage, why do celebrities have more divorce rate? Why do most men with beautiful wives still cheat on their wives or abuse them physically or verbally? It is simply because physical beauty has nothing to do with having a good marriage, and just as the Bible says in Proverbs 31:30 that beauty is passing – meaning the impression that the beauty of person has on you will shortly pass away in marriage and you will face the reality.

If you marry somebody because the person is financially okay or has a good job or business, after you get married, you then realize that God had already destined you to be prospered on your own without the person, then you will wish you had married the right person and prospered together.

When you marry somebody because of their financial or material influence, you will not have respect of the person and you will not have rest of mind. Later you will realize that you could have made it richer without the person, that you could have married the poor but right person and make it together.

When you see a couple in a brand new latest SUV, wearing same designers, when you see a couple spending their vacation or summer in an expensive place outside the country, and you envy them and wish you have such marriage? What a fool! You don’t know that all those things have nothing to do with happy home. Money, materials and others have nothing to do with a good and godly home. For example, there is no amount of money your husband may have that can console you when you realize he is cheating on you.

When you marry a visionless rich guy that has a Television and ignore a visionary man without a Television now, then one day you will watch the visionary man on your husband's TV. Also when you marry a wrong lady without the inbuilt capacity to support your vision, but because she is beautiful to behold, soon you will have no major project than to spend on her beauty with latest makeups.

Another common ignorance among singles in choosing partner in marriage is academic qualification. You want to marry, and you have this idol of academic qualification in your heart that the lady you want to marry must be very educated or the man you want to marry must not have lesser education than you.

When you ignore the perfect will of God for your life because he is not as educated as you want or because her academic qualification is too low, and you think, “How will people feel that after all my academic qualification I will now marry this person with low academic qualification.” Will it not sound well for people to hear that the person you want to marry graduated from so-so university, or s/he is a Dr, Lawyer, Engr. Etc.? You know what? People you are trying to impress by marrying a wrong educated person will not be there with you in the marriage when tragedy of wrong marriage starts to let loose on you.

Do you want to marry a particular tribe person or you want to marry the perfect will of God for your life? Will it not be so painful that the heart-breaking wrong person you marry is from your tribe? Rather, will you not be so peaceful that the loving, godly and right person you marry is from another tribe? Which one is better for you?

It is funny when I see people saying they must marry from their tribe or town or village as if they have not seen the worst husbands or wives from that their tribe, as if marrying in their tribes is more important than marrying in the Lord.

When you allow your parents to choose for you instead of allowing God to choose for you or when you choose to marry somebody because his or her parents are good or godly, and you go into marital relationship with somebody because it is the wish of your parents or because the parents of the person are ministers, popular, or powerful in the society, such is called ignorance of the single. When you enter into the wrong marriage, your parents or the parents of your spouse will not be there with you.

If you don’t want to marry and mar your life, destiny, ministry and eternity, but if you want to marry and make it in life, and also make heaven, then the only person you can marry and never regret it is the person who is the will of God for you. God has created a person for you that fits your life, destiny, God’s program for you and that is what is called the will of God in marriage. You may miss the right school, the right carrier for you or the right job, but please do not miss the right person God has created for you because if you miss it, you may miss everything including heaven.

In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (Pastors and Relationship coaches). And most importantly to avoid much time wasting time, simply consult the SHOE MANUFACTURER to tell you your size (GOD ALMIGHTY ).

"You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage." Ladies these days get so motivated when they attend wedding and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy. Wait!!! It is not just the wedding oh. The wedding is just one day. After the wedding WHAT NEXT?
  • Surrender your life to Jesus. Only in Christ you have the will of God, until you are genuinely saved.
  • Surrender your will and ways to God. Let His will be your will and His way be yours, no idol.
  • Seek Him for guidance. Lean not on your own understanding
  • Settle for God’s will, not your permissive will
  • Stay pure till marriage. No premarital inordinate affection or sexual immorality.

Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it. Ask questions -Where is this shoe made from? (Background) -What's the size (Values) -How much (His/Her interest) -How long will it last (His/Her Character) -Who made it? (Is she/He of the same faith This is compatibility) -Will it match me? (This is whether he/she love you and will accept you the way you are). Remember many are dragging their foot and they would hardly reach their destinies, many are feeling endless pains and wish they could pull off the shoes but no way!!! I have seen people with beautiful shoes and when they show you their foot, you will see scars. Beloved, it is not about the physical, it is the size, you can't know the size from afar so come close, build a relationship first but remember 'you are not permitted to try it before you buy it'. And for those who have purchased the wrong shoes, you can still make it your size again if you'd consult the manufacturer and let Him have His way in your marriage. God bless us all.

Tuesday, 16 October 2018


Nearly 100% of cheating women wish their husbands quick death or divorce to have unlimited sex freedom while nearly 100% of cheating men can't wish their wives quick death or divorce. That is why most men cant allow their wives to be physically or verbally abused by their girlfriends. Men will always stand for their wives.

For the beginners, some of you ladies do not know how to show love to the guy you are dating. some ladies think that the only way to show a guy love is by having sex with him; that is why some ladies do not have anything to offer a guy except sex. Sex is not a prove of love. Don't use sex to prove that you love a guy. As a lady, you can prove that you love a guy in the following ways:
Buy gifts for him. You can give him gifts of T-shirts, shoes, undies, singlets or even a phone if you have the money. Take him out for lunch and pay his bills at least once in 2 months. It is not bad at all. Send him some love text messages occasionally. Give him phone calls daily at least once daily, ask him how he is doing and tell him that you love him. Occasionally you can cook a delicious meal for him, maybe once in a week or once in two weeks, but not everyday like a housewife. You can also help him financially when he is broke. Take him out for shopping at least once in a year, you will not die. Pray for him advise him. Help him to build a bright future.

Guys if you love a girl and you're sure you love her, there are things you have to do to prove it. Never push her to do the things, she doesn't want to do. Always try to listen carefully to her, and understand her. Try to give her space to develop herself as a person. Take very good care of her, in every possible way. Try to call or text her, it goes a long way to remind her, that you are thinking about her.

Try to help her in every way you can, she is your helpmate and not your slave, so don't enslave her. Always worry about how she feels about things, worry about how she sees the world, try to get to know about her goals, and understand why she lives her life the way she does.

Try to trust her, now I know this may be hard especially if you have trust issues, but if you love a girl you should be able to trust her.Try complimenting her, believe me it hurts a girl when the guy that claims he loves her, but can't tell her she is beautiful. I mean you see her in a new dress and you just walk away, that's really bad. If you love a girl you'd accept her the way she is, you won't try to change her. You would love her for who she is today and not for what will be tomorrow, and you would feel blessed to have her by your side. Learn to talk, walk, dress and appear as a guy and not a lady. Love her with her mistakes, remember that you are not also perfect.

Ladies, you also have a great part to play in a relationship, if you love that guy then: You respect him, guys love girls who respect them a lot, you don't try to bruise his ego by being disobedient and disrespectful. Listen to him whenever he is talking, never talk back at a guy or walk away from him. If you notice your guy is angry, don't be in a hurry to find out what his problem is, give it time, especially if he is hot tempered, allow his temper to cool before talking to him.

Try to get close to his family members. A guy would love you more, if he sees you are in good terms with his family. Do not nag at him, guys hate it when girls nags at them. Girls you just can't wake up one morning and say you want to change your guy, that's impossible. If you want him to change, then give him time and reasons to change.

Try to show him how much you love and care about him, by being faithful. If you love your guy so much, I see no reason why your eyes should be on other guys.

Be independent, don't just sit around there and wait for him to do all things. Try to help out, guys value girls who can contribute positively to their lives.  Be neat, a guy would love his girl to be neat and presentable, don't be a talkative, guys hate that a lot. Try to give yourself some pride and dignity, as a girl you deserve to have that. Don't make the mistake of throwing yourself at a guy, that's really bad.
You don't fight a guy, just because you're having a misunderstanding doesn't give you the right to fight with him. If you are arguing with him and can't seem to sort it out, then do your fightings in prayers. It's not your job to fight and argue with your guy, it is your job to pray for him, pray for his heart and every aspect of his life.

You need to learn how to cook different delicacy, learn how to serve him, make his cutlery and neat and clean, as a matter of fact, don't serve him with same dishes and cutleries always. Learn to talk, walk, dress and appear as a lady and not a guy.

Above all put God in the center of your relationship, and there is no way you can lose.
A man can cheat on his woman and still love her but a woman cannot cheat on her man and still love him. I say this because while men do not have sex with emotions, women can't have sex without attaching emotions to it. This is the reason men simply need a place to have sex while women need a reason to have sex.Most women who take their husbands to court for divorce are those that cheat on their men. A non cheating woman would most likely never take her husband to court for divorce, unless the man exceedingly abuses her physically and emotionally to the point of killing her.

Men don't equate sex with love. A man can have sex with another woman but still doesn't love her. That's why women who fell in love with married men find it difficult to find happiness in those relationships as they are just being used by those married men. But once a married woman starts sleeping with you, she can even narrates some hidden secretes concerning her husband and she will even tell you why she hates him (her husband). She can even accept poison from you to eliminate her husband.

For men, sex and love are two different things. But for women, sex and love are one and the same things. For men, sex comes first before love (infatuation), but for women love comes first before sex (true love). Therefore, once your woman starts having sex with another man/men, her love shifts from you to that man and she can even start giving that man the best food and love than she gives you.

The fact that your man is cheating on you doesn't mean he has stopped loving you. But I can't say the same for women. Once a woman starts cheating on you, she has fallen for someone else and you people will never live the same again. And she can even kill her husband once she starts cheating on him.If your wife starts cheating, you should be a lucky man not to die in less than 10 years.

It has been found that 95% of women who cheat wish their husbands dead. That is the main reason why it is dangerous for a man to continue staying with a wife who cheats on him. That is why is now encouraged everywhere in the world including in the Bible, for a man to divorce his wife only once she starts cheating on him. Cheating women are more deadly to husbands than ordinarily criminals or weapons. There are many cheating women in the world who invite criminals to break into her house at night only to come and eliminate her man and police officers plus relatives can't detect this as the same woman tend to moan more than any person at the funeral so as to attract sympathy and hide her evil acts.

That's why psychologists discourage women, more than men, from cheating. Women can't handle the emotional conflict that comes with cheating. That's the reason an observant and intelligent man will notice that his wife has started cheating on him once he starts doing it because most women tend to lose respect to their husbands and try to avoid sex with them in most times.

Cheating Women will even be giving excuses for not wanting to have sex with their husbands. Study has revealed that nearly 90% of women who cheat find it hard to have enjoyable sex with their husbands, again an intelligent man will detect this once his wife's behavior with regard to sex start changing. But a dull man can never detect this and always tolerate fake excuses from his cheating wife until he is completely eliminated.

Study has shown that every relationship begins to flounder once a woman starts cheating. There are many men who cheat on their partners but still show them true love. But it is very hard to find a relationship in which a woman is cheating and things still remain the same.

A man would cheat but still love and respect his wife, but the opposite is true with cheating women. Once your wife starts sleeping with other men/man, just know that your death is near.

Saturday, 6 October 2018


Marriage doesn’t cure lust, if it did adultery wouldn’t exist. Self-control is still a requirement. Lust doesn’t care if you are married or single. You may be Solomon in wisdom or David in praise or Abraham in faith or Joshua in war but if you are not Joseph in discipline, you will end up like Samson in destruction... If you don't have self control, you are like a city without wall. Erection is a state of arousal of sexual desires in a man in preparation for sexual exploit. Having an erection is natural but obeying the dictates of your erection is a choice.

For every erection, there's a responsibility. Wise men have control over their erection but foolish men obey their erections. Any erection not properly controlled is capable of leading one to destruction, even to early grave. Unsolicited erection is no respecter of persons.

Anointing, righteousness, strength, age etc has no power over erection, only self-control and self discipline can curb an erection. Many became useless fathers because they didn't control their erections.

Some are in prison because they followed the dictates of their uncontrollable erection. Others have lost great opportunities in life because their erection pushed them.

Some are bed-ridden at the altar of uncontrollable erection. The stupidity of erection is that most times it is not selective, every hole is applicable. Unchecked erection has led great kings to be at the bed of their slaves and maids. Uncontrollable erection has led some to sleeping with their blood sisters.

Erection has not left the clergy out of the drama, as many have been found messing up with those they ought to be Shepherd over. What a tragedy?
A strong man is not measured by the level of his physical muscle or by the number of nations he has conquered but by his ability to control his erection. No man in history could be said to be more powerful than Samson yet his erection made him the weakest in history, his erection made him fall at the lap of a woman.

David killed Goliath and conquered many great nations but he couldn't conquer his erection, he became weak at the sight of Bathsheba, the wife of his servant. Reuben ruined his future and generation after him because of his uncontrollable erection.

Don't let your erection destroy your destiny! Your erection is a sign you are a real man but following it to everywhere it leads you is a sign of weakness. Any man who cannot control his erection can't fully control his life. The only time your erection cannot mislead you is when you use it within the confines of your marriage. Stop following your erection, follow God n your vision. Unto Him who is able to keep us from falling I commit each and everyone of us we shall all finish well and finish strong.

In conclusion, don't let your erection lead your direction unless it will lead you into destruction.


Regardless of what you are spending money on, always investigate the expenses required to sustain what you are starting. Wedding ceremonies are becoming a source of debt for many, and it ought not to be so. You or someone close to you will need this truth soon.

You don’t have to do an expensive wedding ceremony because wedding is different from marriage. Ensure you are not in debt after the wedding night because that is when the marriage begins. Marriage is an obligation the families owe you for being a good member of the family. Whether you know it or not, your family members will not want you to be put to shame on your wedding day. If your parents go into debt, there is no shame in it because it is an obligation they owe you, but it is folly for you to go into debt for your wedding. If your family cannot do it, then do what you can afford.

Your wedding is one of the many seasons of harvest in your life. Don’t spend all that loved ones give you at this time. For example, if five people want to pay for your wedding cake, collect the money with gratitude. Then find a friend who is talented in baking cakes to bake your wedding cake as an obligation of friendship. Then save the excess money in an account for life after wedding. Enter your marriage in the blue and not in red –signifying debt. I don’t see any wisdom in you going into debt.

Now another thing to consider when it comes to choosing a spouse, one of the requirements people under play is certificate for work. Some today, are following men who are not working, doing everything to marry him, claiming he is doing his masters or just done with his masters but looking for a job. Whilst the same lady will reject a hardworking man because he didn't have a degree or masters.

Too much learning is really making some ladies settle for the wrong partner. The requirement is a man who is working and not a man who has a certificate. If you meet a man with a PHD but has no job, refuses to start something small but holds on to the business of writing applications, he is not a candidate for marriage.

There is nothing which is permanent in life, one can easily lose their dream job at any time.  What you are able to do, without a certificate speak volumes than just holding on to a certificate without a job.

As a lady you need a man who is able to take care of himself and his household. This man you want to marry should demonstrate that, if he can't take care of himself or provide for you when he marries you then it is okay you don't rush into marriage with him. Put such a marriage on hold for a while for him to do the right thing.

When you meet a hardworking man who is earning and able to take care of himself and even add value to you but has no certificate or has an educational background far lower than yours, he is still a marriage material. You don't write him off because of certificates.

A good man is a man with a good heart and not a man with a certificate. You need a good heart to keep your marriage and not a good certificate. Further study is good, but it is not only formal education that makes a man a better person.

Many times, ladies look down on men who have a good heart but with a lower educational background, and go for men who are heartless but have a high certificate or educational level. What sometimes you call class is just only a mistake. No man is well rounded and has it all but when you meet a man who is determined and has a future, believed in him, give him your support and pray with him for no one knows tomorrow.

Every man is a potential business owner but not all certificate holders are employable. Sometimes you don't need a certificate to discover a problem and provide the solution for it. Entrepreneurship goes beyond certificate.

The fact that he has attended a higher institution doesn't mean he will automatically understand you and treat you right or better. You need someone who is humble and kind enough to make time and learn about you. You need someone who fears God and lives in His presence.

In conclusion, enter your marriage in the blue and not in red –signifying debt. I don’t see any wisdom in you going into debt. "Hard working farmers have more than enough food; daydreamers are nothing more than stupid fools" - Proverbs 12:11 (CEV).

Lord, I receive the wisdom for a debt-free marriage for me and all friends and family members about to wed in Jesus’ name, Amen!


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