Showing posts with label Marriage & Relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage & Relationship. Show all posts

Tuesday, 17 April 2018

RELATIONSHIP GUIDE FOR SISTERS



Things sisters have to do get a husband from a man's perspective

You can get it right. Here comes the relationship guide for sisters: 

Never look for a man, let him look for you. Queens never chase, they are Chosen. Esther, the Queen was chosen by the King, over thousands of women. Be classy and live in a certain sophicated realm that make you different. If you look for a man, you will find one. He will be a man but not the one for you. Let the man find you.

Position yourself strategically in the right place. Get yourself together. Get ready for your future. Ask God to take away from you past relationships scars, old baggage, pain memories, the spirit of recalling events of the past, the fear of commitment, the fear of being hurt and broken again, and wrong hidden attitudes. Never be nasty but always be classy. If you want a man that loves you with the love of God, you need to first love God. Become completely and totally stable in your relationship with God and with others. Don't be unstable in your emotions. Be consistent!!  If you can't or won't submit to the authority of God, you will not submit to the authority of a husband.

Tuesday, 20 March 2018

FROM MRS FAITH A. OYEDEPO

PASTOR MR &  MRS OYEDEPO 
 
A GOOD WOMAN, MAKES A GOOD WIFE AND A GOOD WIFE BECOMES A GOOD MOTHER. A GOOD MOTHER GIVES BIRTH TO A GOOD CHILD. IF YOU WANT TO BE A GOOD WOMAN, WIFE AND MOTHER, EMULATE THESE STEPS BELOW:

1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.

2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you. You are each other's keeper.

3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don't have a happy home.

4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.

5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.

6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.

7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.

8). Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.

9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.

10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband's right. You must give it to him how he wants it. It's very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over that duty (even the anointed
ones)

11). Never compare your husband to your one time Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.

12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.

13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.

14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.

15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.

16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.

17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.

18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?

19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home.

20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always team work.

21). Don't be too judgmental with your husband. No man wants a nagging wife.

22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.

23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food? Try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food.

24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.

25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.

26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.

27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.

28) A confrontational wife, can never keep a good husband and her home, she will be grooming irresponsible daughters without manners.

29) A woman who cannot manage her children, home and  husband is a complete failure in life no matter her achievements.

30) A wise woman honors her husband, and respect him, in turn the husband will cherish her and love her dearly - it will be natural. Husband is a beautiful gift from God, no woman can stay without a husband. No good man on earth can tolerate a confrontational and argumentative wife except they have lost their value and become less of a real man.

31). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.

32). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason.

33). A prayerful wife is very wise and intelligent and she  is a  better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family. Conquer all your challenges and problems with prayers, only GOD can solve our problems - not parent, not anybody but, only God then You. 

Tuesday, 13 March 2018

WORK ON YOUR CHARACTER

Golden Word

Character talks about your  behaviour and this is important in a marriage relationship. Many people mistake reputation for character. Reputation is who people perceive you to be. But who you are when no man is looking is your character. In choosing a life partner, you must look out for qualities and character in people. It is your duty to ensure that the person you want to marry and indeed yourself do not have too many character flaws. These are beauty, brain and behaviour (character). It is amazing that beauty and brain can be discovered in no time. To discover character takes time. You must be patient in looking out for character as you also work on yourself. 

First and foremost, work on your own character before you look out for character in others. Go for content and not the container. It is the content that attracts value. I will illustrate this statement using the coca-cola advert. At the end of the Coca-cola advert, they usually conclude it by saying, ”#100, liquid content only”. In order words, the value  #100 is attached to the content alone. The container (beauty) is not as valuable as the content (character). A lady was asked, “What are the qualities you will like to see in a man you wish to marry?” In replying, she said, “I want a man that is Tall, Dark and Handsome (TDH). These are just mere attributes relating to the container and not qualities relating to content. You are meant to look out for good qualities and character.

Since character is important in choosing a life partner, you must work on your character as you look out for character in others. Few of the characters you should put on yourself and the ones to look out for in other people: 

(i) Self-Control
 Proverb 25:28
 28 “He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls. Self-control is the ability to be in charge of your emotions and actions. A man without self-control is a vulnerable man. It is important that a christian be armed with this essential character. A man without self-control will be ruled with all manner of emotions. 

Such a man will be unstable in all his ways since human emotion is also unstable. Self-control is an antidote for curing lust. Many people erroneously believed that marriage will cure lust. Instead of using self-control to tackle lust, they rush into marriage, as if marriage is meant to cure lust. Marriage cannot and will not cure lust. If marriage can cure lust, there will not be adultery in marriage. Make sure you handle lust with self-control before you marry. You may be Solomon in wisdom, you may be David in praise, you may be Abraham in faith or you may be Joshua in war but if you are not Joseph in disciple, you may end up like Samson in destruction. Apostle Peter in his book listed self-control as one of the character that must not be lacking in the life of any christian.


Peter 1:5-8
5 For this very reason, make effort to add to your, faith goodness; 
6 and to goodness knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control; perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness;
7 and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to. brotherly kindness, love  
8 For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. (NIV) 

Self-control is among the several qualities that apostle Peter desire to see in the life of any believer.He believes this quality will make a believer effective and productive. Therefore, in preparation for marriage, you must endeavour to add self-control into your life. Moreover, you should also be on the look out for this quality in the life of a believer you wish to marry. I usually charge unmarried brothers to ensure they have self-control in their lives. This is because the hallmark of a young man, I believe, is self-control according to Titus 2:6.


Titus 2:6
6 Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled. Paul was specific. He instructed that the young men should have self-control. I usually instruct young unmarried lady never to consider a man without self-control for marriage. A man that cannot control himself is vulnerable. Anyone that cannot control his or her anger, tongue, love for money or sexual apetite is not ripe for marriage.

 One day, a christian lady who was in a relationship with a young man. She told me that the guy was demanding for sex. This guy even threatened to quit the relationship if she refuses to give in to him sexually.

 Meanwhile, they had agreed at the onset of the relationship to reserve sex till the wedding day. I advised the lady to quit the relationship. My argument was simple. If he cannot control his sexual apetite to the extent of issuing out a threat, he is likely not a reliable man. That is a warning signal. Any man that cannot control his sexual apetite in courtship will likely be involved in extra-marital affairs. Such a man is an adulterer in the making. He will likely sleep with your maid or your sister in the future. Never over look that quality called self-control. Add it to your life and look out for it in the life of your partner.

(ii) Forgivenes
Forgiveness is the act of forgiving or the willingness to forgive. There is no way offence will not come up in a relationship. It is expected that such offence will be handled with forgiveness. Anyone that cannot forgive should not think of marriage. Jesus Christ admonish us 

to forgive our neighbours 490 times a day (Matt. 18:21-22). The moral of this lesson is that we should always be ready to forgive in advance. Bob Gass defined unforgiveness as the umblical cord that ties you to your past. Unforgiveness hinders your progress in life. Unforgiveness also hinders your prayer (Mark 11:25). If you are ready to advance into that institution called marriage, you must be ready and willing to forgive in advance. 

It is important for a believer to work on his or herself when it comes to the issue of forgiveness. The bible makes it clear that offences will always come. The only way to deal with it is to be ready to forgive. You must learn how to forgive your friends, neighbours, siblings etc in preparation for the person you will marry. In the course of living together, there will always be misunderstanding. You must always willing and ready to forgive where necessary. if this quality is lacking in you, go before God and ask Him to help you add this important quality into your life. The resultant effect of this prayer is that more people will offend you. Your. ability to willingly forgive them will make this quality abide in you.


When my wife was an undergradute, she was in a relationship with a young man. After a while, this young man left her for another lady. She was hurt, bittered and betrayed. She held him up in her heart in unforgiveness. The Holy Spirit began to deal with her showing her reasons why she needs to forgive him and move on. After several days of conviction by the Holy Spirit, she made up her mind to forgive. Eventually, this young man fixed his wedding date with the new lady. The Holy Spirit convinced my wife to go for the wedding which took place several kilometers to where she was living. You will agree with me, that was not easy at all. To attend a wedding where you will be thinking, “I would have been the bride.” She obeyed and went for the wedding. She greeted them and took photograph with them. She discovered that the pain and the bitterness she had been experiencing disapeared completely. This act of forgiveness helped to prepare her for marriage, where she will need to forgive over and over again.

Sunday, 11 March 2018

5 THINGS YOU DON'T NEED IN COURTSHIP

Many Christian singles who are in relationship/courtship really wish to have pure courtship/ relationship. But, that dream is like a mirage to many of them, as many of them keep falling into sexual immorality. Many to-be marriage beds are already defiled! One of the major reasons why this so is because many who are in courtship have what they should not have to have  a pure courtship. I want to menton five  of those things you don’t need to have if you want to have a pure courtship:   

1. YOU DON’T NEED A BED: There is nothing like courtship bed in the Bible. The Bible only talks about ‘Marriage Bed’. ( Hebrews 13:4). Once you have a bed the two of you sleep on now that you are in courtship, that your courtship bed will defile your ‘marriage bed’ in advance. Only married couples should sleep together on bed, not singles who are in a relationship/courtship. As a Christian lady, stop the habit of jumping on the bed of your fiancĂ© when you visit him. Sit on a chair. When you lie on the bed, it suggests you are ready for him. It might not mean you want sex or romance, but that posture of lying, sleeping on his bed when you are not sick suggests many things! Be careful! Don’t be a source of temptation to your partner! You don’t need to have a bed to have a pure courtship!  

2. YOU DON’T NEED A BATHROOM: I have heard of so many singles who bath together all in the name of expressing love to their partners. If you want a sinful, ungodly, polluted courtship, continue your 'joint bathing game’. For those who desire to have a pure courtship, you don’t need a bathroom in your courtship. I know a young man who was always bathing with his girlfriend. One day, while in that bathroom together, fight started because he wanted to have sex with her or do one sexual activity and the girl refused and splashed soap on his face, they fought and pushed themselves out of the bathroom naked! What a show of shame! Christian singles, others may, you cannot! Never use the bathroom together in courtship. You don’t need a bathroom to have a pure courtship!  

3. YOU DON’T NEED A PADLOCK : Don’t lock any door when you are together alone. I hope you know that going to his house to pass the night is passing your boundary? If you truly desire to have a pure courtship, stop being together behind closed doors. Once you are behind closed doors alone, you have closed the door of purity against yourselves. Leave the door ajar! What do you want to say that needs the door to be closed before he/she can hear you? Princess, immediately you see that brother trying to close the door, carry your bag and be saying the closing prayer as you go on the road, not in that room! You don’t need a padlock to have a colourful courtship!  

4. YOU DON’T NEED SEXUAL SKILLS:  In marriage, you will need all the sexual skills you can learn, but you don’t need it in courtship!  A guy reported himself to me about how he is hooked up to pornography. I asked him why he started watching porn. He said so that he can know how to make his girlfriend enjoy him on bed when he starts dating. You could see the deprivation of such a mind. Sexual skills are not needed in courtship, they are tools for marriage. Don’t be a fool to use a marriage tools in courtship! You don’t need to have sexual skills if you want to have a pure courtship!  

5. YOU DON’T NEED CONTRACEPTIVE PILLS: So many singles are on family planning and swallowing all manners of contraceptives pills and yet they want a relationship  God will smile at. Bro, what are you doing with condom here and there in your room? Lady, you have no business with  those contraceptive pills or injection. You are not married! Some ladies are not yet in any relationship and they are already making serious research on which pill, injection or contraceptives that will work well with their bodies when they get into courtship because they are sure they will have reckless sexual adventures in their relationship. What a pity! For those who desire to have pure courtship, you don’t need contraceptives!   

Let no body sell that lie to you that, it is not possible to have a pure courtship void of sexual activities and sex. There are still many Christian singles like you across the globe who are having pure courtship. They are honouring the Lord with their bodies and they know how to control their emotional feeling by avoiding things that can make them fall into sexual sins. You can be like them. You can have a pure courtship. It is very possible! 

Written by:
Ebenezer Diyaolu




Saturday, 10 March 2018

PROSPERITY FOR YOUR MARRIAGE

PRAYER SESSION

CHURCH : MOUNTAIN OF FIRE & MIRACLES MINISTRIES

PROVINCE : Providence Pavilion of Praise RI

THEME : PROSPERITY FOR YOUR MARRIAGE

 PRAYER POINTS

#1.  This session is titled: PARALYZING MARRIAGE KILLERS:

1.  All counsels against my marital life, collapse, in Jesus' name.

2.  Any association between my husband/wife and any strange man\woman be scattered now, in Jesus name.

3.  Every demonic in-law, loose your hold upon my life, in Jesus' name.

4.  Every curse that has been issued against my marriage be cancelled in the name of Jesus.

5.  Every demonic mark contrary to settled homes be wiped off with the, blood of Jesus.

6.  Every inherited spirit that is not of God, go, in the name of Jesus.

7.  Every curse issued against my marriage or against my marital life, be broken, in the name of Jesus.

  #2.  This session is titled: ERASING EVIL ANTI- MARRIAGE MARKS:

1.     Every anti-marriage curse be broken in the name of Jesus

2.     Raise your two hands up

Every evil wedding ring on my finger be removed by fire in the name of Jesus.

3.   Every trademark of evil marriage be shaken out off my life in the name of Jesus.

4.   I revoke every witchcraft verdict on my marital life in the name of Jesus.

5.   O Lord recreate my beauty to attract my God given partner in the name of Jesus.


#3.  This session is titled: DESTROYING PLANS OF EVIL IN-LAWS:

1.      Let every evil architect destroying my marriage amongst my in-laws be exposed and disgraced in Jesus name.

2.      I command every evil architect of hatred, hostility, and conflict in my marriage be paralyzed in Jesus name.

3.      Oh Lord, arise and disgrace every power challenging my marriage within my in-laws in Jesus name.

4.      Let all evil in-laws receive angelic slap after the order of Herod in Jesus name.

5.      Let all those despising me in my husband’s house receive divine disgrace today in Jesus.

6.   I command all evil transportation system of in-laws to ground to halt and irreparable regret in Jesus


#4.   This session is titled: POWER OVER TERRITORIAL SPIRIT:

1.      I command the territorial spirits controlling me from my place of birth to release me in Jesus name.

2.      Father Lord, let your fire be kindled against every shrine in my town working against my life in Jesus name.

3.      Oh Lord let the evil priests in my town destroy themselves for my sake in Jesus name.

4.      I refuse to answer anymore satanic calling of my name in Jesus name.

5.      All territorial weapons fashioned against my marital life will not prosper in Jesus name.

6.      Father Lord, I destroy all the troublers of my marriage in my home in Jesus name.

7.      Let all worshippers of idols prepared against my marriage die in Jesus name.


#5.   This session is titled: PRAYER AGAINST EVIL COUNSELORS:

1.      Father Lord let all evil counselors in the life of my husband be disgraced to death in Jesus name.

2.      I command all evil counselors attached to my matrimonial life to die after the order of Ahithophel in Jesus name.

3.      Lord Jesus let your name and power paralyze all the activities of evil counselors in Jesus name.

4.      I command blankness of mind to envelop all satanic counselors attached to my marriage in Jesus name.

5.      Father Lord, release abundantly upon the heads of all evil counselors your fire and brimstone in Jesus name.

6.      I command the wrath and anger of God to fall upon the evil counselors in my marriage in Jesus name.

7.      You evil counselors in my husband’s life stumble, fall, die and be roasted in Jesus name.

8.      You strongman of evil counsel release my marriage and my husband\wife  in Jesus name.


#6.   This session is titled: PARALYZING THE ACTIVITIES OF STRANGE WOMEN/MEN:

1.      I plunder every habitation of strange women/men and render it desolate in the name of Jesus.

2.      You strange powers from the bottom of river, under rock, under evil trees and graveyard fashioned against my marriage be roasted in Jesus name.

3.      I command every activity of strange women/men in the life of my husband/wife to cease immediately now in Jesus name.

4.      Father Lord, shied my married from evil sun shinning by the day and evil moon of the night in Jesus name.

5.      You son of the strange woman/man you will not shine upon my marriage in Jesus name.

6.      You moon of the strange woman/man you will not locate my marriage in Jesus mighty name.

7.      I command every strange leg in my marriage, my life and husband/wife’s life to walk out now in the mighty name of Jesus.

8.   I release myself from the cage of spiritual husband/wife in Jesus name.

 #7.   This session is titled: CANCELING ALL DIVORCE SUITS:

1.      Oh Lord, thou art the most righteous judge let the divorce suit filed by my husband be handle by the Holy Ghost in Jesus name.

2.      Father Lord, I refuse to be separated from my husband in the name of Jesus.

3.      Father Lord, fault all the excuses advanced by my husband to advance Your favor upon my life in Jesus mighty name.

4.      I withdraw the divorce suit from the hands of satanic agents unto the hand of the Holy Spirit in the name of Jesus.

5.      Father Lord depose every human agent of the enemy appointed to put asunder my marriage in Jesus name.

6.      Rock of ages, let Your hammer break into pieces all the seats arranged by the devil for the judgment of the case in Jesus name.

7.      Father Lord, reverse the divorce suit into a new wedding with my husband in Jesus name.

8.      Father Lord, let all the powers supporting the separation be devoured by the Lion of Judah in Jesus name.

 #8.   This session is titled: Defeating the Powers Of Darkness Over Your Marriage:
1.      Every demonic sacrifice offered against me and my marriage, be disgraced in Jesus name.

2.      Let every satanic oracle directed against my matrimonial home be disgraced in the name of Jesus.

3.      O Lord, let blindness and deafness fall upon the raging of the enemy against my home in the name of Jesus.

4.      Father Lord, convert all evil powers against my marriage to shaft and blow them away with your own tempest.

5.      You spirit and power of marriage destruction, release my marriage in the name of Jesus.

6.      Any power fuelling conflicts and hostility in my home, I paralyze you in the name of Jesus.

7.      Every program and plans of home wreckers against my marriage, I cancel you in the name of Jesus.

8.      Let the blood of Jesus remove any unprogressive label from every aspect of my marriage in the name of Jesus.

9.      Let all circles of marital problems break, in the name of Jesus.

 #9.   This session is titled: DEFEATING THE SPIRIT OF POLYGAMY:

1.      Let every problem connected to polygamy in my life be nullified by the blood of Jesus.

2.      Every power fueling polygamy activities in my marriage fall down and die in the name of Jesus.

3.      Fire of God, destroy every habitations of the spirit of polygamy in my life and in the life of my partner.

4.      Every polygamous plantation in my marriage, in my life, in the life of my partner, come out with all your root.

5.      Let all the affairs of my marriage be withdrawn from evil marital records, evil observer and evil monitors.

6.      Let all past evil ancestral activities affecting my marriage negatively be changed to blessings in the name of Jesus.

7.      Fingers of the living God, begin to fight on my behalf in every affairs of my life in the name of Jesus.

8.      O Lord, destroy every traces of polygamous influence in the life of my … in the name of Jesus.

 #10. This session is titled: DELIVERANCE FROM EVIL MARITAL INHERITANCE:

1.      Any satanic design in my family, receive the fire of God and be roasted in the name of Jesus.

2.      Every evil marital re-occurrence in my family back to the 10th generations, I reject your presence in my marriage.

3.      Let the power in the blood of Jesus separate me from the hidden curses operating in my family circle.

4.      Let every evil inherited marital spirits in my life/in my marriage, go down to the pit in the name of Jesus.

5.      I turn back from evil inherited marital journey that I have embarked upon in the mighty name of Jesus.

6.      Any evil vessel in my life and my marriage representing evil inherited marital spirit perish without mercy.

7.      Every evil inherited marital arrow presently working in my life come out with all your poisons and go down to the pit.

8.      I break every bondage of inherited marital failure upon my life and upon my marriage in the name of Jesus.

9.      Every strongman representing me in the register of inherited marital bondage fall down and die in Jesus name.

 #11. This session is titled: DELIVERANCE FROM STRANGE CHILDREN:

1.       Let the habitation of strange children be desolate by the Holy Ghost fire in the name of Jesus.

2.     Any spirit or power manipulating spiritual children in my dream, die with your strange children in Jesus name.

3.     Every ancestral strange children transferred to me, I reject you by fire in the name of Jesus.

4.     Every strange children working against my earthly children, die by fire in the name of Jesus.

5.     You my eyes, be purged by the Blood of Jesus and refuse to see strange children anymore in Jesus name.

#12. This session is titled: JUDGE THE ENEMY OF YOUR MARRIAGE:

1.      Father Lord, let all giants standing against peace and unity in my marriage fall down and die now in Jesus name.

2.      Let all powers encamping against my home become confuse and scattered in the name of Jesus.

3.      Let every power of the oppressors in my marriage rise up against each other in the name of Jesus.

4.      Lord Jesus, let your power work mightily in every difficulty situations in my marriage in the name of Jesus.

5.      I bind you the strongman working against me in the heart of my husband/wife and all his/her relatives in the name of Jesus.

6.      I command the arrows of the strongman working in my family to be roasted completely in the name of Jesus.

7.      Let all the troublers of my marriage be disbanded and be confused in the name of Jesus.

8.      Let the blood of Jesus cleanse off every unprofitable and evil label in every department of my life in Jesus name.

9. I paralyze all marriage destroyers and anti marriage forces in the name of Jesus.

#13. This session is titled: UNSEATING THE NIGHT RAIDERS

1. Every seat of witchcraft in my family / marriage / house be unseated by fire in the name of Jesus.

2.      Let every path-way of witchcraft into my life be overturned by the blood of Jesus in the name of Jesus.

3. Every stubborn cause of failure in my life I bury and destroyed you by fire in the name of Jesus.

4.  Any member of my family empowering external enemies, die by thunder in the name of Jesus.

5.      You family foundational bondage affecting and disgracing my life, I terminate and destroy your activities by   the blood of Jesus in the name of Jesus.

6.      You evil foundational bondage connecting my life to internal and external destruction, be consumed by fire in Jesus name.

#14. This session is titled: WORKING AGAINST STUBBORN SITUATION IN MARRIAGE
1.      Let my vision and my tempt be clear towards my marriage in Jesus’ name

2. Every household evil traders trading with my marriage be bound and be roasted by fire.

3. Every arm of evil re-enforcement in my marriage be a scattered by fire of God and be roasted in Jesus’ name.

4.      I refuse, frustrate and destroy enemy re-establishment of my evil covenants in marriage.

5.      Let God arise with anger and jealously over my unprofitable lateness in marriage.

6.      I decree enough is enough of my unprofitable lateness in marriage.

7.      I destroy all my evil monitoring gadgets on my marriage.

8.      Let my wasters and my delayers in marriage be found no more after the order of Pharaoh.

9.      I declare my ways open to victory over marriage in Jesus’ name.

10.  I refuse to cry in vain over my marriage in Jesus name.

11.  Lord Jesus rent your heavens and deliver me to my husband and my husband to me in Jesus’ name.

12.  Let the good testimony of my marriage come forth in Jesus’ name.

# LET GOD BE GOD IN MY MARRIAGE

This is a 3day Fasting & Prayer Program

Praise worship

Scripture Reading - Psalm 126

Confession - Psalm 124:8

#DAY ONE
21. Give glory to God, thank him for everything in your life and bless Him for he shall prove Himself in your marriage.

2. O Lord, make my marriage a treasure in your hand in the name of Jesus.

3. I receive divine knowledge of every hidden problem and their originators in my marriage in the name of Jesus.

4. Every evil power blocking me from knowing the hidden truth of my marriage, perish without mercy in the name of Jesus.

5. I command the true God to prevail over my marriage in the name of Jesus.

6. I command the truth of God to prevail over all enemies of my marriage in the name of Jesus.

7. All my marital goodness and responsibilities that have been swept under the carpet, I command divine wind of God to bring you out for me in the name of Jesus.

8. Every evil chain binding -----------------(name of your spouse) break now in the name of Jesus.

9. Divine hunter hunt out my partner’s missing love for me in the name of Jesus.

10. Divine fishers bring out my husband /wife from the sea of life in the name of Jesus.

11. Oh Lord, show me the shortest route to my divine marital breakthrough in the name of Jesus.

12. All marital blessings that are attached to this program, I claim them in the name of Jesus.

13. Let the host of heaven co-operate with my reconciliation during this program in the name of Jesus.

14. Anything responsible for the delay of my marital breakthrough be melted by fire in the name of Jesus.

15. Begin to thank the Lord for He has done it.

 #DAY TWO
16. Angels of God pick all my marital breakthroughs and blessings in the “go-slow” of life and bring them to me by fire in the name of Jesus.

17. Lord, give me the keys of divine breakthrough in Jesus name.

18. The oil well in my glorious marital treasure shall not dry in the name of Jesus.

19. I receive power to become a beneficiary of divine marital assistance during this program in the name of Jesus.

20. My miracle shall not disappear with this month in the name of Jesus.

21. Lord, append your stamp of restoration in my marriage in the name of Jesus.

22. Father Lord, stamp out all the undesirable things in my life in the name of Jesus.

23. Lord, set an edge over my mouth that I may not say anything unpleasant to You in the name of Jesus.

24. Lord, pound me and make me into the shape you want.

25. Lord breath into every part of my being in the name of Jesus.

26. Lord, let the fruits of prayer grow and manifest in me in the name of Jesus.

27. Any power that is not interested in joy I command you to fall down and die in the name of Jesus.

28. I reject partial blessing for marriage and I claim full blessing for my marriage success in Jesus name.

29. I refuse to wear the garment of marriage failure, I wear the garment of marriage success in Jesus name.

30. I rub off from my body all satanic marks of unexplainable hatred in the name of Jesus.

31. Thank God for answering all the prayers.

 #DAY THREE
32. All my hidden marital blessing in the second heaven come out by fire in the name of Jesus.

33. I lock myself inside the will of God for marriage in the name of Jesus.

34. Every satanic attack on my marriage, I paralyze you now in the name of Jesus.

35. Every spiritual thief stealing from my divine treasure, fall down and die in the name of Jesus.

36. Any spiritual thief stealing away love from my marriage restore it back in Jesus name.

37. Heavenly treasurers sign out my divine possession now in the name of Jesus.

38. Every wall of partition between me and -----------------(name of your spouse) be pulled down in the name of Jesus.

39. All the hatred of my in-laws against me, Lord, turn them to love in the name of Jesus.

40. Every satanic prophecy presently manifesting in my marriage die with your sender in the name of Jesus.

41. Let the fire of God consume every evil wilderness of marriage destruction before me in the name of Jesus.

42. Anything in my life that is fertilizing any problem in my marriage receive the destruction of God in Jesus name.

43. All the stubborn and difficult areas of my marriage receive divine solution in the name of Jesus.

44. Let the river of marital problems in my life dry up now in the name of Jesus.

45. O Lord, let me be one of the children that You are going to answer and restore his/her marriage this month in the name of Jesus.

46. Begin to thank God for his miracles and begin to see your testimonies and miracles coming to you from hence forth in the name of Jesus.

Wednesday, 7 March 2018

DATING IS NOT BIBLICAL

To outside christian we hear we are dating each other. To the chrIstian dating is not biblical. What does it mean to date anyway? Dating, according to the dictionary is to "go out with someone in whom one is romantically or sexually interested in". This definition is in fact everything the bible stands against. Some may argue that dating is when you get acquainted with the person you intend to marry, well if you are spiritually cognizant, you do not need to go out with a person for years to know whether they are the one to marry. God would have spoken to you about this person from the beginning and if they are not the one for you, there would not have been any need for you to waste your time. The act of dating has only become the norm because people no longer hear from God, as a result of this, they check or shop around for whom they think is the best for them and a lot of times, they choose wrongly anyway regardless of how long they were checking to see if the person is good for them.

A man who is in search of a wife knows what God has put in his heart to find, he does not need to engage in sexual relations with you before he knows you are the one, he comes with the intention of marriage because at that point, God has spoken to him about you and he knows he has found the one God spoke to him about and then, he is ready to marry you. He is not telling you to wait for years where sexual temptation is given the opportunity to set in. What dating does is to open doors to sexual sin, heartbreaks, manipulations etc. As a woman, you only expose yourself to unnecessary sexual temptation and heartaches by dating different men before you are actually ready for marriage.  Dating will only open you up to being vulnerable to the desires of the flesh which is sex.  Sex outside of marriage is an invitation for the enemy to have a stronghold over your life. Sex is more than the physical pleasure, sex is so much more than people realize, when you have sex with a person you become one with this person. (Mark 10:8 "and the two are united into one.' Since they are no longer two but one) Here, let me break it down for you, you share in the trials and tribulations of this person, you share in their problems, struggles or troubles, you share in their demons if they have one or maybe even more etc. Sex is only a blessing to you within the confines of marriage. Imagine having slept with so much men that you carry bits of every one of them around and you don't even know where to begin to troubleshoot your spiritual problems.

 As a Christian woman, I know it is hard to wait for a man after God's own heart in a world where everyone has a 'Boyfriend'. Do yourself a favor, pray and wait for God's appointed time. Some women that are married and chose the wrong person can tell you of the burden they now bear alone in their homes if they are being truthful. Most of them would probably never tell you about it. It is well hidden behind social media filters and unhappiness that is masked with laughters and makeups.  Do not turn yourself to an emotional and spiritual embargo for the man God would provide for you after a faithful wait. Do not already do the duties of a wife to a boyfriend and be left with nothing but remnants to the man that truly deserves you. Pray and work towards the purpose of God for your life while you wait to be ready for marriage and meet the man that is ready as well. The choice of a spouse God has for you is far greater than what you currently are chasing after. Wait for God faithfully, And if you are out there considering settling because you feel like you have waited enough, don't do it, the plan of God for your life is so much more than what you want to settle for, Wait for God, He'd surprise you and show himself in the way you never though possible in Jesus name.

Friday, 23 February 2018

FROM MRS JOYCE MEYER

A GOOD WOMAN, MAKES A GOOD WIFE AND A GOOD WIFE BECOMES A GOOD MOTHER. A GOOD MOTHER GIVES BIRTH TO A GOOD CHILD. IF YOU WANT TO BE A GOOD WOMAN, WIFE AND MOTHER, EMULATE THESE STEPS BELOW:

1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.

2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you. You are each other's keeper.

3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don't have a happy home.

4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.

5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.

6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.

7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.

8). Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.

9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.

10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband's right. You must give it to him how he wants it. It's very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over that duty (even the anointed
ones)

11). Never compare your husband to your one time Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.

12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.

13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.

14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.

15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.

16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.

17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.

18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?

19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home.

20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always team work.

21). Don't be too judgmental with your husband. No man wants a nagging wife.

22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.

23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food? Try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food.

24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.

25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.

26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.

27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.

28) A confrontational wife, can never keep a good husband and her home, she will be grooming irresponsible daughters without manners.

29) A woman who cannot manage her children, home and  husband is a complete failure in life no matter her achievements.

30) A wise woman honors her husband, and respect him, in turn the husband will cherish her and love her dearly - it will be natural. Husband is a beautiful gift from God, no woman can stay without a husband. No good man on earth can tolerate a confrontational and argumentative wife except they have lost their value and become less of a real man.

31). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.

32). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason.

33). A prayerful wife is very wise and intelligent and she  is a  better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family. Conquer all your challenges and problems with prayers, only Christ can solve our problems - not parent, not pastors, not anybody but, only you and Christ.
Joyce Meyer 

Friday, 16 February 2018

DOES LOVE GUARANTEE THE SUCCESS OF A RELATIONSHIP?


I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all year round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else.

Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with.

In those times, love will not help you; self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.

You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do!

But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.

You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.

We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped, it's now your responsibility to make it work, not love's responsibility.

Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment.

Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.

That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.

Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. It's always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focus and committed.

The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self disciplined!.

Sticking to one person is not natural, you must develop yourself to do that. It works great and perfect with people of like minds, people of the same beliefs and people that share the same school of thought..

Thursday, 25 January 2018

THE SACRIFICE OF MARRIAGE

Early in our marriage, God had to teach me that truly loving Dave meant that sometimes I would have to make sacrifices. Up until that point, I only wanted my way and was very much like the noisy gong mentioned in 1 Corinthians 13.

Love is the highest form of maturity. It often requires a sacrificial gift. If love doesn’t require some sort of sacrifice on our part, we probably don’t really love the other person at all. If there is no sacrifice in our actions, we are most likely reacting to something nice they did for us, or simply pretending to be kind to gain some control over them.

It is important to understand that true love gives of itself. So our decisions should always have our spouse’s interests at heart. When you do, you’re giving of yourself.

God’s desire is for husbands and wives to love each other sacrificially and unconditionally. This means you don’t get your way all of the time. But the good news is, when a husband and wife sacrifice their selfish desires, they will have a triumphant marriage!

Prayer Starter: God, I want to walk in true love in my marriage. I make a decision today to not always push for my own way, but to be willing to sacrifice for my spouse.

Sunday, 21 January 2018

WHO TO MARRY



In life, one of the most important choice you will need to make is who to marry. This choice is so important that if you miss it, you will suffer for long, if you get it right then you will enjoy forever. A bad marriage can affect every other area of your life. This subject is so important to the extent that so many married people are hoping to be single again so as to be able to make the right choice all over again. If you are single please don't just be in a hurry to get married, because you still have the best opportunity to prepare for it.

For two people to come together to live in peace and harmony, they must agree spiritually, mentally and physically. Just like an elephant cannot marry an ant so also a believer cannot marry an unbeliever. If an elephant marries an ant how would they live, if a goat marries a fish where would they meet? You must look for a sincere and righteous man or a sincere and righteous woman to marry, nothing can beat this. The devil's primary target is the family. He knows that everyone belongs to a family and if he can bring two wrong people together in marriage, then he will succeed in breaking the community ties and the nation down as a whole, and this is part of what we're witnessing all over the world presently.

Ignore your age and the pressure for a moment, the pressure in a wrong marriage is far worse. God has somebody for you but you must set your priorities right. What do you need in a woman? What do you need in a man? Marriage is not about what you want, it is about who you need, that will make you better while you make him better, it's not something you just jump into. That is why you must know your purpose before you get married. You must pray before you choose. God knows the best person for you, it is only wise to seek His will. It is very easy to know God's will when sex is not involved. The moment sex is involved and you want to know His will then He will blank you out. Why? Because you have broken His first Law of NO SEX before marriage. If you have had sex in the past then you need to repent totally and stay away from each other, then you can seek forgiveness from God. Your marriage will not be hell on earth. Your marriage will be honourable.

Don't marry for sex, don't marry because you are of age, don't marry because you are getting old, don't marry because you are lonely, don't marry because you need someone to support you financially, don't marry because you mistakenly got pregnant, don't marry because you don't want to lose the person, don't marry because of family pressures, don't marry because you like the idea of marriage and admire every wedding gown you see, don't marry because all your friends are getting married. But get married because you want to fulfill what God has ordained on every child of him Get married because you want to be a help mate, but most of all, because you want to fulfil a purpose of having completed half of your religion, your deen. God will help you in choosing, please let's all continue to pray pervently to God for all we want.He loves us so dearly and He will answer all our duas and supplications at the right time.

16 SECRETS TO GET BACK YOUR HUSBAND


Lots of women are losing their husbands to strange women out there and most women are yet to know what these men really see in these women that make them to get glued to them despite the facts that they know that these women are more expensive and most are full of sexual transmitted diseases.

Hi wives, you need to know the sexual secrets of these faceless women, sorry they are better than you in the bed, you need to step up to match up with them and beat them in their dirty games. Take your time to read this and get your husband back, these are their secrets:

# 1) THEY UNDERSTAND THE SEXUAL WEAKNESS OF MEN:
They understand that one of the weaknesses of most men is sex and they make good use of this. Wives are careless about this, instead of using sex to create intimacy with their husbands; they use it to create animosity, anger, bitterness between them and their husbands.
WHAT TO DO:
Use sex as a tool of love to create intimacy in your marriage, don’t use sex to destroy your marriage, use it to build it.

#2) THEY KISS LIKE MAD:
In a report, most married men reported that their wives hate kissing; they said it is difficult to get a decent kiss from their wives. Strange women are experts in this area they use kissing as a weapon.
WHAT TO DO:
Don’t turn kissing to wresting in your marriage, stop been local. Kiss your husband even when he is not expecting it.

#3) THEY USE KILLER UNDERWEAR:
A man said he hates to see his wife in panties because according to him, she always looks like a wrestler. Lots of wives are like this, they are fond of wearing pants whose colors are different from their bras, looking like a rainbow, with dirty pants, outdated underwear, bra that looks like tarpaulin, wearing of boxers that is meant for men, wearing of knickers and tying of wrapper to bed. Strange women are creative in this regard they are fond of using neat, sexy panties and bra. They always balance colors under there.
WHAT TO DO:
Wives wake up, fashion starts form under, not from head gear or rope sieve bag, the real fashion is looking sexy when you undress before your husband.

#4) THEY USE KILLER NIGHTIE:
Strange women not only wear sexy underwear, they also wear killer nighties. While wives dress to bed and look like a soldier in bed, strange women dress to capture the man even before getting to bed
WHAT TO DO:
When you are going out dress up, when you are going to bed dress down. Dress to capture the imagination of your husband, get very sexy, nasty nightie for your husband’s eyes only. Men are moved by what they see, let your husband she the angel in you

#5) THEY SEE SEX AS A SERIOUS BUSINESS:
You see it as a chore, you see it as dirty, you even wish it is removed from marriage, it never cross your mind. But for these strange ladies, they see sex as a serious business and do everything to keep their clients and customers. They use all marketing strategies, branding, product, packaging, marketing and advertisement.
WHAT TO DO:
Begin to see sex as a serious business, rebrand yourself, repackage yourself because you are the real product.

#6) THEY TREAT SEX AS FOOD OF MEN:
Wives are fond of saying “Is it food?” What a foolish statement! It’s not food, it’s more than that, in fact the Bible says it is water (Proverbs 5:15-19). Strange women’s are aware of the fact that men see sex as food and they serve it hot and better
WHAT TO DO:
Get into the fray, treat it as the food of your husband. Serve it better than before, never say, “is it food?” again in your life, it is more than that

#7) SEX IS IN THEIR MIND: Babies, house cleaning, cooking, nd washing are in the mind of wives; sex is never in their minds, they never think of it, but away women put it in their mind and their body is ready no wonder they hardly look tired for it.
WHAT TO DO: 
At least two or three time a week, put sex in your to-do list, put it in your mind and see how your marriage turns to be

#8) THEY PLAN FOR SEX: Strange women plan for sex the way you plan for your cooking; they look forward to it and carry their catch along in their plans.
WHAT TO DO:
Plan for sex in your marriage; don’t make it your husband’s affairs to plan for sex in your marriage. Let it be part of your schedule.

#9) THEY SET TABLE FOR SEX: Strange women do set table for great sex, soft music, blue light, candle light, perfumed bed, velvet bed sheet, sexy outlook, slippery fingers. Do you still wonder why men are running to them?
WHAT TO DO: 
Begin to set table for sex in your marriage, be creative, surprise your husband with sexy outlook when he arrives from work. Children are already in bed, you look “Smatching”, the whole house look romantic, soft music, dinner with candle light, Hug by the door and kiss on the lips. Who says your husband will not rush home tomorrow.

#10) THEY ARE VERY ROMANTIC:
Romance is a strange thing to some women, the away women don’t joke about it, they are experts in this. Whole lots of wives are romantically bankrupt but strange women are professional in it. Men loves romantic women and strange women know this.
WHAT TO DO:
become romantic, marriage is a love affair, don’t allow motherhood and wifehood destroy your girlish instinct. Be romantic.

#11) THEY FLIRT WITH THEIR MEN:
Strange women are not only romantic, they are flirty. they give “come and do” eye contact, if you sit with them on a table they make sure their legs touch yours, they put hands on men’s shoulders and touch men’s Legs as they discus. They greet men with a good smile, they laugh excessively to men’s dry jokes. All these signal immoral men understand perfectly and they quickly go for them.
WORK TO DO:
Get flirty with your husband, hold his hands in the public, place your head on him when in a bus, touch his legs as you talk, sit close to him and sure make your body touches his own, hold him longer when hugging, he is your husband girl, get flirty with him.

#12) THE ARE SEDUCTIVE: Strange women are not only romantic they are flirty, they are not only flirty they are seductive. They dress seductively, expose their cleavages, show their panties, wear very tight cloths that shows their pant lines and curves, open their Laps for careless men to see what is there. This is what your husband face daily, though he may not get home to tell you what girls in the office are doing to him, you need to know this and get it right at home, with right and what I call holy seduction. This I mean you counter them by seducing your husband regularly, this may keep him to you.
WORK TO DO:
Get seductive with your husband; stop pretending that you hate sex. Work round the house half naked when you are alone with him, bath with bathroom door open when alone with him, go ahead win your husband spirit soul and body.

#13) THEY MAKE GREAT USE OF PERFUME: 
Strange women use expensive perfumes, they smell nice to attract men.
WORK TO DO: Make sure you smell nice too, men’s sense of smell is very good, take advantage of this, capture your husband.

#14) THEY MAKE MEN FEEL WANTED:
Strange Women do make men feel wanted, honored and welcome by their attitude, cooperation and involvement in the bedroom. The opposite is the case with wives; they make men look foolish for asking for sex, they make their husbands fight or struggle for it, what a mistake!
WHAT TO DO:
Treat your husband with honor, let him feel wanted, accepted and loved. If he touches you encourage him and touch him too

#15) THEY USE THEIR BREASTS TO THE MAXIMUM:
Most wives are fond of fighting their husbands for touching their breast, but strange women will never do that, they make good use of this to capture men, they know that most men can be captured by women’s breast, so they dress to show cleavage, half of their breast, they wear clothing that shows their nipples, they go for breast enhancement, they go out bra less, you see the women that are after your husband are very desperate, you can’t afford to be careless.
WHAT TO DO:
Don’t ever fight your husband again for touching your breast, it is not for the baby, the baby is a tenant, it’s for the Daddy, it is not for decoration, make use of it to keep your husband.

#16) THEY COOK GREAT MEALS: 
Strange women also know how to cook great meal for men before sleeping with them. They know that men love food and if a man loves your food he is likely going to like your body.
WHAT TO DO: 
Never commit your husband meals in to the hands of your maids; you will likely regret this later. Be a great cook if you don’t want to cook your marriage.

Saturday, 20 January 2018

TOP TEN MARRIAGE SECRETS

# Secret 1
Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength.

# Secret 2
Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.

# Secret 3
Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage
. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow [ For better for worse ]. In sickness and in health be there.

# Secret 4
Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.

# Secret 5
To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:Ignorance , Prayerlessness,Unforgiveness ,Third party influence ,Stinginess, Stubbornness ,Lack of love ,Rudeness Laziness ,Disrespect ,Cheating, Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

# Secret 6
There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages.

# Secret 7
God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience

# Secret 8
Getting married is taking a huge risk. You can not predict what will happen in the future.  Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. Husband can lose his good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce.

# Secret 9
Marriage is not a contract. It is  permanent. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce.

# Secret 10
Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.

So today let us pray for our marriages and ask God to help us where we are lacking in the marriage. May God bless you. I love you all. RELATIONSHIP & MARRIAGE

Friday, 19 January 2018

UNCLE TUNDE


Uncle Tunde grinned when he saw his daughter, Aduni and the husband Kehinde walked into the house. The old man, was on one of his rare visits to his in-law. He had to succumb after several pleas from his in-law to move from his confines of Ijebu   to Lagos to spend the Easter Holidays. This his in-law believed he needed to comfort him from the old man’s loneliness after his wife’s demise three months ago.

After dinner that evening, he whispered to his son in law that if they don’t mind, he would love to have a quick word with the couple after the children have gone to bed. By 9pm, the couple was back to the dinner table to hear what the old man had to say.

He started by asking them a simple question “What is the most important thing in your life Aduni ? She replied, “Daddy, it is the kids oo, they mean everything to me”. He then turned and asked Kehinde , the son in law the same question, he also beaming with pride said :it is the kids of course” they are the reason why I work so hard to ensure they have a better life”

Uncle Tunde replied, well said my children, I don’t mean to intrude on how to run your family, but I believe there is a fundamental error you would need to correct. He said “ I have observed how much you both love your kids and dedicate all your time for them. 
Forgive me if I have eaves dropped a couple of times, but doesn’t all your conversation bother on the kids? The coupled stared sheepishly in admission to the assertion.

He continued, I am a poultry farmer, and the biggest egg supplier in my district. I make my money by the quantity of eggs sold. That said, my priority has always been providing optimal care for the chicken. Because I know that when the chicken are healthy and productive, the eggs will come automatically. If I start to ignore the chicken, the eggs will also suffer.

He pointed to Kehinde and said, “as a husband, the most important person in your life should be your wife and vice versa. It cannot be the kids. They are just   products of the marriage. If you learn to take care of each other very well, your kids would grow up healthy and strong, but if you ignore each other, brace yourself up for dysfunctional kids in the future. The two of you are the foundation of this family. If you suffer any form of crack, the whole house will go down. So please make time for yourself and treat each other as VIPs and the kids will be just fine.

This has been the secret of the fruitful union between your mum and I for over 50 years till death took her from me. The old man couldn’t help it but shed tears at this stage. He thanked the couple for their time and excused himself to his room.Many married couples can identify with this story, where the focus shifts 100% to the kids and barely have time for each other. They later are amazed they lose the magic connection between them. If care is not taken, those connection needs gets outsourced, thereby opening up your marriage to all sorts of strange elements.Give the kids the love and attention they deserve but not at the expense of each other. You are the real deal. The kids are just bonus!!! 

WHAT IS YOUR NATURE?
An old man was sitting at the river bank, he saw a cat that had fallen into the river struggling to save itself from drowning.The old man decided to save the cat. He stretched out his hand towards the cat but the cat scratched him. He pulled his hand back in pain.

However, a few minutes later he stretched out his hand again to save the cat, but it scratched him again, and again he pulled his hand back in pain. A few minutes later he was again trying for the third time! Another man, who was nearby watching what was happening, yelled out, *"O wise old man, you have not learned your lesson the first time, nor the second time, and now you are trying to save the cat a third time?" The man paid no heed to that man's scolding, and kept on trying until he managed to save the cat.

He then walked over to the man, and patted his shoulder saying:, "My son... it is in the cat's nature to scratch, and it is in my nature to love and have mercy. Why do you want me to let the cat's nature overcome mine? *"My son, treat people according to your nature, not according to theirs, no matter what they are like and no matter how numerous their actions that harm you and cause you pain sometimes. And do not pay heed to all the voices that loudly call out to you to leave behind your good qualities merely because the other party is not deserving of your noble actions. So never regret the moments you gave happiness to someone, even if that person did not deserve it." Jesus treats us according to His nature, just think where we would be if He were to treat us as per our  nature... That is why He saves us in spite of ourselves.CHRIST is in me, the hope of glory, I live and move and have my being in Him. I manifest His glory, beauty and excellence to the world. The WORD OF GOD in my spirit BRINGS OUT the wonderful deeds and perfections of God for the world to see. Jesus Christ is glorified and glorified in us.

 Hallelujah! Amen!

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